#042 When Someone Does You Wrong, Should I Seek Revenge?
Allah forgives whoever He wants.
Rasulullah s.a.w was injured in Uhud.
He was injured in his face in three different places. And the arrow or the spears actually penetrated through the helmet into his jaw.
Several of his teeth were gone, and he had to be patched up with mud so the bleeding would stop.
When Rasulullah fell to the ground, Umar al-Khatab thought Rasulullah was dead.
Umar just sat on the battlefield. According to a narration, he just sat there saying, “What's the point now?” (What’s the point of the battle now, since he thought Rasulullah was dead).
Then Rasulullah comes back to consciousness.
In one narration, he gets up to consciousness and says, “How can Allah guide a people that spilled the blood of His messenger?”
Allah immediately revealed ayat after Uhud. One of those ayat:
“You have no authority whatsoever, (talking to the prophet s.a.w) wether He wants to accept the taubah, or He wants to punish them, then they are in fact, have done great wrong.”
“Allah owns whatever in the skies and the earth. He forgives whoever He wants, he punishes whoever He wants. And Allah is extremely forgiving loving and merciful.”
What have we done?
“I haven't forgiven you so I know Allah won't forgive you. Because until I forgive you, I know Allah won't forgive you.” (Don't point at anybody, think of yourself)
When you do that, what are you negating? And what do you think is going to happen on Judgment Day when nobody can speak?
You're gonna be like, “Excuse me Allah, you're about to forgive this person, but I haven't forgiven them yet. So can you let them at least one weekend in the barbecue, because I have an issue.”
You think you're going to be concerned about raising an issue about somebody else?
And do you think that on Judgment Day somebody will feel like,
“I don't know how he got away, I'm still mad.”
“How can they get away?”
And some people live in the anxiety that someone who has done them wrong might be forgiven on Judgment Day because they've changed.
They have this anxiety; “This person changed, but I didn't forgive them so why is all, it's not fair Allah is going to forgive them They got away with it.”
That, even to the Prophet of Allah, Allah told the Prophet s.a.w “You're a slave, act like it, be a slave. Forgiveness and punishment is not yours.”
It's whose?
It's Allah's. Stop thinking you have a say in it for anyone else. Let it go, because that's part of being a slave.
Their matter is with who?
فَأَمْرُهُۥٓ إِلَى ٱللَّه His matter is with Allah. It's not your problem because you yourself and I myself are slaves of Allah, and so are they.
If they've done wrong to me, firstly if they've done wrong to me, they've first done wrong to Allah, because Allah told them not to do wrong to me.
Before someone commits a crime against me, they've already committed a crime against Allah, and Allah is way more offended than I am. And Allah is way more just than I am.
So instead of me thinking I'm going to teach Allah how Justice is going to work on Judgment Day, which by the way Allah asked this question in the Quran:
قُلْ أَتُعَلِّمُونَ اللَّهَ بِدِينِكُمْ : tell them, ‘are you going to teach Allah your religion?’ You want to teach Allah how justice should work?
This is like anxiety of making sure someone pays. It takes us so far, we start questioning the wisdom and the justice of Allah and we stop forgetting that we're slaves of Allah.
Honestly it's scary to me. It can be rooted in pain, I get it, you were wronged, I was wronged, it is rooted in pain, but you cannot allow that pain to turn you into a pharaoh.
You cannot allow that pain to project some kind of authority on Judgment Day. That is too far.
Don't do it to yourself. It'll destroy you spiritually. It'll just destroy you.
Whether Allah forgives them or not, Allah knows their deal better than you and me.
I know one thing; Allah will never be unfair to me.
Allah even says, وَيَشْفِ صُدُورَ قَوْمٍۢ مُّؤْمِنِينَ
“Allah will heal the hearts of a believing people”; is that enough for me to hear, Allah will heal the hearts?
You're like, “I don't want my heart healed, I like this pain and I enjoy this.”
Some people do, they're addicted to the pain, and they're like, “I want to feel the sensation of getting revenge. I'm waiting for that high.. I need it.”
Guess who needs to see someone else suffer? Who has that need? Who's the first one who needs to see someone suffer?
Where do you think that need comes from to see someone suffer?
You know shaitaan has caused so much more suffering than any one of us could. A human being can only do so much wrong, shaitaan has been doing wrong since ages.
So my hate, my desire to see shaytan suffer, should be stronger than my desire to see anyone else suffer, but I never make Dua “Ya Allah, through him in jahannam. Do this to him.”
I just say, “Ya Allah protect me from his evil,” - That's it, that's all I say. أَعُوْذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِِْ
Why? Because who's going to deal with him? That's Allah.
I'm not going to stand over Jahannam and say, “Ya Allah burn him good, yeah right there, yeah that spot, that he cried extra on that spot.”
Where did you get this from? This insatiable thirst for revenge, exacting pain on someone else.
We should want Justice. It's a human nature that wants justice.
First of all, if there's worldly means to seek justice, then do it.
And if there's no worldly means to seek justice, then أَمْرُهُۥٓ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ
Allah is more just than I can ever be.